Sunday, January 23, 2011

Where to begin?

Well this is our 2nd Blog for those who don't know us.  We joyfully welcomed our beautiful baby boy BLAZE XENNON into the world August 26th, 2009.  After starting the journey into surrogacy in India back in early 2008.  It was a very long, emotion-filled journey for us, but was hands down the very BEST day of our lives when he entered this world and we held him in our arms for the first time.

Fast forward 15 or so months later...

we talked about having a sibling for Blaze.  Were we being selfish after being blessed with such a miracle in him?  He has and continues to be, such an amazing child.  Yes I know, EVERYONE says that about their children, but we are truly lucky.  Many people comment on how they 'have never seen such a great kid' (not even their own children were as good as Blaze!')  He has had NO skin issues, he was not a fussy baby and is not a cranky toddler, he eats great, he has slept through the night since he was 8 weeks old, he is very, very healthy, and he has such a great demeanor.  He is SO happy, SO friendly, SO sociable, etc. etc. etc. Were we betting the odds in that we would have another child even half as good as Blaze?  Could we afford to go through another cycle in India?  Would Blaze's egg donor be available?  Did we want to start the roller-coaster of emotions ALL over again with the possible failures, the 9 months on pins and needles having our surrogate thousands of miles away.  We knew she would be in the BEST of hands with Blaze's Godparents AKA the Doctors of SurrogacyIndia, Dr. Sudhir and Dr. Yashodhara, but it is still so nerve racking...what pregnancy isn't right?

We talked and we talked, going back and forth, when would be the perfect time?  Blaze was getting older, and so were we! 

Fate would this time be in our favor!  We were chatting with Dr. Sudhir as we have done many a night for the last 3 years.  Out of the blue he asks "when are we going to give Blaze a sibling?"  We hummed and hawed and gave them all of our excuses and reasoning and blah, blah, blah.  Then he tells us, "We have been searching for over 6 months and we have found Blaze's egg donor"'  REALLY???  It gets even better, "She has agreed to do just one last cycle for them."  WHAT??!!  Could this be true? It had to be fate.  This was our time.  So we agreed to not mess with fate and go ahead.  This just has to be a sign that it is the right time to do this again.  So we said, okay we are ready.

At this point, the rest seems like just a blur.  We went through the process. Next thing I know, we get the phone call  'You are pregnant!'  Your beta number is 561.7.  I remember my mouth dropping open and thinking, 'Is this what I think it is...twins????!!!!'  OH NO!  What did we get ourselves into?  We only wanted one more child.  But as they say, be careful what you wish for.   My worst fear and greatest dream was about to come true.

Here are the STATS thus far:

Nov. 30, 2010 - Our amazing egg donor produces 18 eggs.  14 are mature.

Dec. 2, 2010 - 3 embryos are transferred to FB (our chosen surrogate)


Dec. 14, 2010 - The phone call arrives....POSITIVE PREGNANCY!  Beta number 561.7

Dec. 18, 2010  - 2nd beta number 2577.0 

Dec. 30, 2010 - Ultra Sound Report is as follows:

           CRL A   6.0 mm -  6 weeks 3 days - cardiac activity well appreciated in this fetus.

           CRL B   6.7 mm -  6 weeks 4 days - cardiac activity well appreciated in this fetus.

           CRL C   1.4mm -  Less then 5 weeks -  Cardiac activity not appreciated in this pole. :(

3 SAC's????  that's a surprise.  All I could think of is...'Thank God we don't have to go through the pain of a selective reduction.  Mother nature is taking over.' 

And so, here we are.  Not just pregnant, but pregnant with TWINS!

 6.5 weeks

Our Journey is about to start ALL over again.  This time x 2!

9 weeks

And now we wait! Wait for the scans, the lab tests, the pictures and the updates...

7 comments:

  1. Simply wonderful, wonderful news. CONGRATULATIONS. It's great to see you blogging again as I know you are both a true inspiration for so many IPs globally!

    We too are still in the process of debating Rhonda. Are we selfish in wanting to try again, can we afford it. Just as you did. We are yet to decide still.

    Johnny

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  2. Congratulations again, wonderful news! I cant wait to read this blog to, thank you for sharing with us. You are a great inspiration to us and many IP's out in the world. You gave me and Hakon hope when we met you in Mumbay with Blaze. We knew that it was possible and we never gave up hope after that meeting.

    We Are also wondering about a sibling for Nora, we have nine embryos left. We just have to wait for a while to se about my health and also if we can afford it.

    We wish you a long, boring, uneventful and healthy pregnancy. Cant wait to see pictures and read updates.

    Hugs from Nora Wilhelmine, Hakon and Marianne

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  3. GREAT STORY!!! I can read it over adn over again!! Love the babies already!

    Best wishes guys!!

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  4. I have been a enjoying your trails with Blaze and would love to watch your twins grow also. Maureen

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  5. Hi - we have just started this journey - would love to hear more about the clinic - we have family in mumbai and are hoping to stay with them when we go over..

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  6. Thank you for sharing your impressions and emotions concerning the surrogacy program organization. I am very happy about you and I am pleased to know that now your second program is running. The surrogacy permits to feel what a happiness could have lost a parent who is not able to give birth to the child by own forces if he or she were not able to take part in the program. Is it not the happiness? The surrogacy is spreading more and more, and makes all the couples happier…a lot of couples have many obstacles related with the documents formalization, because the surrogacy is permitted only in a few countries and here it is necessary to find an intermediary in order to avoid the problems with the formalization of legal part of the question. For example, in Russia, the surrogate mother is considered as a mother of the child and it is her who decides to take the child with her or not. In Ukraine a surrogate mother has no right to the child she brought to world.

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  7. do you know if they are going to be id or frat?

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